Tuesday, May 27, 2014

Talking to your daughter

Today I worked from home.  My oldest daughter is graduating from high school this year, in about two weeks.  This last semester of high school, she only goes to school every other day.  Today was her "home" day.  During lunch, I talked to her about her future.  This is a rare opportunity.  My daughter is busy with school and work.  We rarely have an opportunity to talk unless it is after 11PM.  It was a good talk.  We talked about getting married and the importance of marrying a good person with similar values.  I also emphasized that you cannot change a person that you marry, nor should you think that you can change them after you marry them.  The only thing you can do is love them and encourage them to do the right thing.  I told her that you don't marry a project.  I'm not into projects.  I'm into having a wife and she should be into having a husband.  Has my wife helped me change?  Absolutely!  But she didn't make me change.  My wife and I have had honest discussions and based on those discussions I made changes in my life so that we can have increased harmony in our marriage.  The change is made out of love, specifically my love towards my wife.

This is such an exciting and wonderful time in life.  It is like the mother bird throwing the young ones out of the nest to help them learn how to fly.  Kids when they reach that last year of high school are ready to be thrown out of the nest.  You hope that you've trained them well enough to be self-sufficient.  You know there will be bumps and bruises along the way.  But you look forward to seeing them soar high in the sky.

In just a few short months, I will have 1/3 of my kids out of the house.  The house is gradually getting bigger.  In less than 10 years, we will be empty nesters.  Wow! 

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